What intentions did you fulfill in 2019? Where did you fall short? Did unexpected circumstances change your plans?
As driven, high achievers, we want to be in control of life’s outcomes. But life doesn’t always go according to plan. In fact, the most rewarding parts of life are often the most unpredictable. So, how do we plan for a new year knowing we can’t know everything? How can we set intentions without getting attached to a particular outcome?
Today, we are walking you through our process for reflecting on 2019 and creating a vision for 2020. We look back at the last 12 months, sharing what we learned about tapping into a new level of commitment and welcoming the cycles of life—even when it’s painful. And we get real about the challenges we faced in this year’s planning process.
We introduce you to the Life Purpose Reading that informed our process and discuss our personal intentions for the new year, describing how unknowns (like becoming a mom!) shift the way we plan and why it’s crucial to appreciate action in ALL its forms. Listen in for insight around focusing on who you want to BE versus what you want to DO and learn our framework for setting intentions in a way that embraces the unexpected.
Themes explored in this week’s episode:
- The distinction between intentions and resolutions
- How Tegan’s intention to be all-in in 2019 helped her tap into another level of commitment
- Katie’s transformative and painful year of rest, reflection and healing + what it taught her about welcoming the cycles of life
- The Life Purpose Readings we used in the reflection and planning process
- How being an expectant mother shifted the way Tegan thought about planning + the challenge she faces in freeing herself from attachments
- The temptation to judge or rank your actions and why it’s crucial to appreciate action in all its forms
- Focusing on who you want to BE versus what you want to DO
- Katie’s big intentions for becoming a next-level speaker and author in 2020
- Tegan’s intentions around postpartum healing, practicing mindfulness and fostering joy and fun in her marriage
- The power in reflecting on why you didn’t fulfill certain intentions
- Overcoming destructive historical patterns of limitation
Resources from this episode:
- Look behind the curtain at the Life & Leadership YouTube Channel
- Learn more about life cycles with Martha Beck
- Access Dr. Robert Waldon’s Life Purpose Readings
- Read Tegan’s blog re: questions for reflection
- Discover Tegan’s year-end guided meditation
- Revisit previous years’ episodes: Do Less and Be More in 2019 and How to Reflect on 2017 and Plan For 2018
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Quotes from the episode:
“My word for 2019 was a phrase—all in. And it was so appropriate. It allowed me to tap into another level of commitment.”
“There will be times you can’t say YES to things you love, and there’ll be a moment of sadness. And there will be lots of stuff that you will not care you’re not saying YES to anymore because you’re going to love this baby more than you’ll ever know.”
“We learn as much from what we don’t do as what we do.”
“Our lives get so interrupted by LIFE.”
“It really is hard to un-attach from things that feel good, that feel controllable.”
“[Setting intentions] should be a loving act at the end of the year.”
“[Un-attachment is] really adopting the belief that who I am at my core, the thing that beats my heart, doesn’t change based on my circumstances.”
“My word for 2019 was balance, and I got it. I succeeded at that goal, and I was unprepared to do so. I did not know how to be in rest.”
“2019, for me, felt very much like person soup.”
“[Caterpillars] completely decompose into sludge and then recompose into an entirely new creature.”
“Do I rank something that I did that was really successful and prestigious higher than the fact that I spent the whole day with a baby who lifted their head for the first time?”
“I would invite you to just be aware of action and love it in all forms this year.”
“But here’s what I realized in making this list of cool stuff that I did: This year forced me to continue to really think about who do I want to be instead of what do I want to do?
“I want to play BIG.”
“Everything runs in a cycle … literally everything in nature. And so why would I be so mad that I do, too?”
“Who do you want to be? So, go be that.”